(intouchweekly.hollywood.com) - This is definitely not what you want an ex-fiance to say about you. Ben Affleck, who famously (very famously) dated Jennifer Lopez is now blaming the high-profile romance for slowing down his career. "What happens is this sort of bleed-over from the tabloids across your movie work," Ben states in Details magazine. "I ended up in an unfortunate crosshair position where I was in a relationship and [the media] mostly lied and inflated a bunch of salacious stuff... And I paid a certain price for that. Then, in concert with some movies that didn't work..." But Ben's back with his directorial debut, Gone Baby Gone, and a low-key family life with wife Jennifer Garner and their daughter Violet.